A Parents Worst Nightmare!
I write this message today with a really heavy heart. Mainly due to the fact a mother has lost her child, then to top it off to know the lost was due to the side effects from his brain injury 4 years ago, this hits close to home. I met the Terry family in 2010 through Bruce Vermeulen and the RiderDown Foundation. Diana Lacy Terry and I hit it off right away and we had these two boys that were bigger than life. The heart and passion of RiderDown Foundation helps riders all over the USA making them part of the RiderDown Family. We are fortunate to be part of their family. Josh Morros in Aug 2008 suffered a traumatic brain injury while racing in a Natl’ Hare n Hound race in Wendover Nevada. Josh laid in a coma fighting for his life for 24 days to awake and had to learn everything over again. Josh still works everyday on how to be responsible to his brain injury. Physically Josh is stronger than before the accident. Dillon in 2010 had a motorcross accident and suffered a bad concussion (still a brain injury) having headaches, difficulty with balance and declining over months after sustaining the concussion. He lost portions of his memory and forgot how to do daily functions. Dillon fought for understanding from the environment based on the cognitive setbacks as his physical ability came back even stronger. He even went pro in BMX racing. During this time he still struggled with the side effects of the brain injury, short term memory, depression and triggers. Dillon succumbed to the injury on November 25th. Even though I acknowledged his passing and my condolences over social media, I just could not bring myself to call because my heart told me it wasn’t an accident. I admit I was scared because I see my son struggle with triggers. In talking with Diana she asked me to share their story, hoping to help others that may have a child that is going through the recovery process but struggles with wanting to be normal after a brain injury. It’s hard to explain as everyone handles their injury differently. As parents we view how our children are dealing differently – are we seeing and noticing the signs? I am not walking in Diana’s shoes and can’t image her pain, but the strength she continues to show by helping others is so inspiring, especially after losing all of her children (one at birth-Dillon’s twin 1996, Dillon’s big sister in a car accident 2004 and Dillon’s death 2014). She is a Warrior! The Terry family was really involved in understanding the injury and worked hard giving Dillon every opportunity to live a normal life. Their message – the silent disability of brain injury is bigger than anything you will want to deal with in your life and you are always trying to understand and overcome the hurdles. A concussion is a big deal, the more education the better. As I personally help others it is also important for me to share that I am not above any of the side effects with my own son and his situation. To share this story confirms my passion to educate the responsibility a survivor and support group needs to take every day towards their brain injury. Daily the work to overcome and create tools to deal with the side effects weather it is making sure you get a good night’s sleep, feeding the brain properly, proper fluid, exercise and personal development for cognitive issues are just a few tools to keep in your tool box. Strength and prayers to the Terry Family. God Speed Dillon, you and your grandpa take care of your sisters and watch over your Mom and Dad.